Well. This guy has given up, clearly, if you only see him in sweats or other loose-fitting, casual clothing. That said, your concerns are totally valid and your boyfriend is being disrespectful of you and your relationship by keeping up the constant communication with his ex. But let me tell you a little of my story. And he could never admit that it was all about him. That is how that behaviour makes me feel. Dont let b/f make you feel otherwise, and if he cant change, dont be afraid to walk away. I love it, he doesnt. We dont try and manage the others health and healing, though. Hello, me from the past! Your bf is trying to make you break up with him. He says I need to do more, try harder, and not let myself be comfortable. But, don't nag him. You know that he is flirting with those other girls, even if you cant see him do it. Having a life outside of your relationship is important for both parties. I think you are being unreasonable, he has apologized and you sending him that long message saying he's selfish was rude and uncalled for yet he apologized to you AGAIN. Again, fine line. I knew I was terribly unhappy, but I felt like maybe our problems were our fault and if maybe I could just find the *right* way to ask for respect >.<, So yeah I agree like 99% that this is a DTMFA situation. Dont be ashamed of using a coping method that works for you, just try and do it safely, and know that I will never be upset with you for whatever you need to do. He says, You should exercise. A year ago, that would have maybe resulted in you shuffling your feet and cycling through guilt about how yes, you should probably exercise but you just cant. A big factor in that was that I saw her problems as easy to fix by doing X where my own were much more complicated (in my mind). Did they worry when you left the house in a revealing outfit? My Jerkbrain doesnt do encouraging, whereas it is full of advice for how I can do better, much of it pretty rude. I dont think that his intent upset or control you but a desire for you to do better born from a internal selfishness that it would make his life better or easier. Openly and blatantly. Depression. It was this one: https://captainawkward.com/2013/01/05/429-430-when-depression-is-contagious/. Like the Capn says, you are healing, so getting to a comfortable place is exactly where you should be. Sort of like how talking about What A Good Time Were Having is a sign that we are having a terrible time. I dont know your boyfriend or all of the details. Hlepy is a word I learned over at Making Light. Ashlyn Cook, 25, appeared in Kalgoorlie Magistrates Court on Monday where she . Make sure your tone of voice and body language are completely neutral, because if they arent, what you say wont come across as simply wanting information but instead will seem like an attack on his character which could lead you nowhere at all. Then he can treat you even worse. These are some questions many women ask themselves when they find themselves in this situation. This you will have to figure out yourself how long you can wait for them to decide or how much you can put up with or if they ever will. My ex did this. I was in a relationship like this! You can also find out through careful observation of his actions. You are the boss of you. You are the person who knows whats best for you. LW, if you feel like this isnt the most useful idea for you, thats okay. Mmmm. If you're not ready, he needs to chill or go find some other hole to fill. Do with that information what you will. Its more like, this day is shit, Im tired, but at least I will go do something in the gym later and that will be *different* than what I am doing right now. When he was in a show that had evening rehearsals nearly every night of the week, I ordered personal Mahi Mahis like every single night. Oh god, my parents did that toothey made fun of my (snack) food choices all the time, which was severely hypocritical as they were the ones who taught me that that behavior was absolutely not okay (when directed towards an adult). I dont think relationships where somebody tries to mold you into their vision of you are a good thing. The thing is, it doesnt sound like he wants you to be better, despite what he says. When I was unhappy with the way her behaviour impacted me, our living space, or our relationship I saw the fact she wouldnt do the easy, obvious things I told her she ought to as indications that she wasnt actually committed to her claims or our life together. Some guys are just lazy, especially when it comes to relationships. It sounds like you two have a chance. My jaded self is all "Flee! +1 absolutely, always. My BF was genuinely not a bad guy. Yes. I dont need bullying at that point -my brain does that for me- I need sustenance and caring. Youre seeing a therapist, and making strides, youre clearly doing exercise and stuff. Is he making home-cooked, healthy meals? When you were sick, it was probably easy for him to get you to do what he wanted. 2) Even if being prompted to do things like eat better food, exercise to work off stress etc was beneficial to you..its still wrong and bad to do it without an agreement, ESPECIALLY when the promptee has explicitly asked the other person to not do it. 5. Im glad the accidentally-posted link might be of use to you, and Im sorry that youre dealing with stuff similar to Drownings letter. I also expressed my fear that he was trying to fix my depression, because I suspect that depression is just part of my makeup, and however well I manage it, there are always going to be some low points. Controlling me became an end in its own right, because it flattered his ego. Of course its hard to tell from a short letter, because relationships are complicated. LW, you dont need someone who will put up with you, you need and DESERVE someone who youre willing to put up with. As a result, I let him pick most of our destinations for dates, because I wasnt going to invite him someplace and then push him to pay for me. For example, wed be driving home from a fun night out with friends and he would tell me all of the things I had said that *could have* been offensive to someone there. If you love someone, why are you punishing them? Let me restate, with emphasis: Getting angry at the depressed partner is not good. Also, if its pre-arranged (and do make sure she agrees, of course), its harder to back out than it is to decide not to go over to see somebody else. It could simply be as simple as the fact that neither one of you feels attracted towards each other any longer. I recognize that it can be really frustrating to coexist with someone elses depression, but the thing is, your boyfriend is not obligated to stay if he cant deal with it. I dont know though. Only I was the fixer, always trying to give my boyfriend helpful advice about how hes doing everything wrong and hed be so much healthier and happier if only hed go to bed earlier, eat more veggies, and agree with me about more stuff. This is a guy who shuts down when hes mad. (But again, I do think its an excellent tool to help evaluate a relationship.). If LWs partner isnt interested in learning and compromising, then it seems to me it will be hard to continue with a healthy relationship. Founded in 2010, Thought Catalog is owned and operated by The Thought & Expression Company, Inc. For over a decade, we've been at the bleeding edge of media, pioneering an infrastructure for creatives to flourish both artistically and financially. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and living together for 1. But Im definitely not saying you need to DTMF right away. He is not the boss of you, and something in you has woken up to that. I hope you find your way to a nagging-free home, one way or another. That doesnt. Thank you for the link. But for it to be helpful, she has to want to include me. Your walking wasnt exercise enough for him??! During that time, I had a b/f who sounds a lot like your b/f he knew that if only I would do X, Y, Z and Q things that he specifically told me to do in the way and with the frequency that he specifically dictated, Id feel so much better! Similarly, with the do more cleaning thing theres plenty of plausible deniability, because living with someone who doesnt pick up after themselves sucks. Alas, LWs BF appears to be one of them. And doing more productive self care is often incredibly hard. And with your wife, there may be things you can do that help, but they are probably concrete gestures. What would you like me to do or say? We will come times ask specifics if I see you doing X or Y would you like me to say or do anything?, We will also talk about our fears: I dont want to come across as a nagging partner or like Im your mom, so Im comfortable saying this, but only once.. If so, disregard my next piece of advice because OMNIPOTENT BOYFRIEND THE ENDLESS POSSIBILITIES) SO they clearly cant actually know whats best for you. A. Self improvement (vs self-care, self-discovery, living life with acceptance) involves believing something is wrong with you B. Yeah, dealing with a partners illness isnt FUN, but as you say yourself its part of the package. Im also in a place where I need to learn to feel good about myself and yet am in a home environment where I hear waaaay more criticism, scrutiny, and you should/shouldnts instead of support. Do not copy, print, or repost entire posts elsewhere without written permission. So even when your partner needs you all the time, you get to take time and space for yourself. There are way to many variables and we dont have all the information and the rules arent always consistent so we cant treat every situation like a puzzle with a clear solution. Living in constant stress, even if its a stress youve chosen yourself in the name of self-improvement, isnt good for you. What it shows is that, really, the storytellers have no idea what your problem works or feels like. I mean, its not like the fucking JerkBrain wasnt already screaming at me about what a pathetic, useless fuckup I was, so having a physical JerkBrain Enforcement Squad really helped me!!!! What were his biggest complaints about you during this time period where he stopped trying so hard anymore? What is that one spot where youve always wanted to go but never had a chance yet? Or maybe its because walking isnt competitive in any way? Well here are some tips what to do when your boyfriends stop texting. Eating is a big thing for me and something I skip doing when my brain gets jerky. *nodnod* Should I dump this asshole? recently printed a letter that said Anonymous asked: Things between us are going so poorly that Im writing into a blog called Yo Should I Dump this Asshole? People who genuinely are that logical will tie themselves in knots trying to analyze their own feelings. "Boyfriend when i first met him was sweet and full of potential. Feeling frustrated with behaviors that contribute to a bad situation? If a guy doesnt offer to pay, he doesnt care about impressing you. I hope what the various letter writers get out of this sort of advice is perhaps support that what feels uncomfortable and off to them in a way that's hard to describe is actually terrible no good behaviour. Regarding being able to change people: LWs boyfriend is *technically* correct if he continues with his controlling behaviour, it will almost certainly change the LW just not into the the happy, healthy LW he is trying to sell them. He says that he still loves me even if I dont do these things (but it doesnt feel that way to me). This boyfriend does not sound like good news to me. They may backslide occasionally, especially when you have moments when you struggle, but when you say Hey, I got this, they are going to immediately apologize and back off. It is about him. He doesnt seem to be enjoying himself around you anymore now. The first thing you need to do is figure out what's bothering him or if he has a problem that isn't about you. either way. . They're Cold To You And more than. But everything you say about this dudetells me that hes more in love with Potential You than he is with Actual, Right Here You. Pick one night per week that you alternate making dinner. What could have turned him off about you in particular? I used similar, but not as good actually, scripts to CAs, and they worked (eventually). Is he happy? Weve been through some really hard times and some very good and stable times. I suspect a lot of commenters are going to scream angry bees, run away, and theyre not wrong; your partners behavior is a bit like tiger stripes in tall grass: it looks like one thing (concern for you) but might be something far less pleasant. Listen to Leah Robins and the Captain if he loves you, he will work with you, and you will be able to laugh together even during the darkest moments of your lives. He used to love visiting your family, friends and all the places you like going to. At a minimum, he is not currently doing the first half. I would say, How does blindly doing everything you say make me more adventurous? We would go round and round, but I never got through to him, because I wasnt willing to back my words with actions. I will always be a survivor of sexual assault and emotional abuse who has depression and obsessive compulsive tendencies. Oh wow. If he does answer, sometimes it takes a while unlike before where there were never more than two rings on the line before he picked up now it can take five or six rings! That looks like progress to me.. Not that I recommend my way. I find that when one person is overly invested in helping someone else, its often an indicator that they have their own issues which theyre trying to feel better about. It kind of seems like he is very invested in being the one in control of your life and success, and that is at great odds with your wish to be the captain of your own ship, as it were. I wish I could say I dumped him, but in fact what happened is we got through the sucky date, and he later told me our relationship had gotten stale, citing that fight as an example. You also have the feeling that something must be wrong between you two because it feels like there are more bad days than good ones lately. But when theres anger, that flips the whole dynamic on its head. #687: My boyfriend wont stop trying to fix me. We sat side by side on the couch, and he told my therapist how much he loved me, how much he wanted to help me, and how much it hurt him to see me suffering. Something that I tried with my own Helper from several years ago I took him with me to a therapist appointment. Apologise, and never say that to me again. If he reacts poorly, or if LW feels unable to give advice because he claims that means theyre unsupportive (an only-to-real double standard), then that is key information and likely points to the impending doom of the relationship. We love each other and were helping each other feel better. Ways this manifests: BOY does he like to research before making a decision. Here are 7 early warning signs of a controlling boyfriend who thinks he owns you. This would be crappy behavior from a parent toward a child, even. For those of us with less than optimal upbringings theres this stinger waiting for us as adults. I was your boyfriend (not literally but, you know, in the way he acts) with my ex-wife. All the logical, reasonable, skeptical partners that the LWs describe are always trying to use their logic to make other people feel like crap about what they feel. He was always enthusiastic if i learned a new skill, or developed an improved routine, or got a new job, but didnt hassle me when I wasnt improving. May 18, 2020 by Emily Cappiello. You deserve to be with someone who shows you respect who likes you the way you are, who isnt always trying to fix you and who listens when you ask him to stop certain behaviours rather than telling you your request is ridiculous. I only do that in ways that SHE has approved, and that weve mutually decided would be comfortable and appropriate for me to do. That is exactly the right way to help, I think. Nevermind the fact that none of my friends were actually offended at all, he just couldnt admit that he had a problem with something I had said. You cant have every day be a rest day otherwise youre not actually exercising, but they are needed or you burn out and get injured or sick. The Romantic Comedy You Should Watch This Valentines Day, Based On Your Zodiac Sign. Did you exercise today?Yep, it was great!What did you do?Why are you asking me? I used to joke about a self-help book called Im OK, Youll Be Okay When I Get Done With You: Ive never seen a copy, but clearly it exists and lots of people have read it. said nothing about it just supported me about going, and listened to me talking about it and was totally go you! Love is out there girls, just make sure you are attentive and smart when it comes to a long distance roller coaster ride. I think you can tell dude that the things he is doing are not helping and that your therapist agrees with you (assuming therapist does and I think therapist is your number one go to about this) and also give him things he *can* do to help you when you are feeling down. Get him to chase you instead." That is good friendly advice but there's a little more to it than that. He says I need to do more, try harder, and not let myself be comfortable., are moreRed Flags. Keep an anger journal to track your feelings, triggers, and management efforts. Your email address will not be published. Doesnt mean partners have to stay, or even should stay. Bravo! I hope Im wrong, but LW, I think your boyfriend would do the exact same thing. The closest he comes is But that doesnt make sense! Which, you will notice, does not contain the word you. A person who is engaged in actual logicking is thinking about statements, not persons, nor how much better they are than you. Reasonable. As the Captain said, he likes potential you. Because he loves you and wants to see you shine for your own sake? And then we left my therapists office, and he spent the entire car ride home and the next 8 hours telling me why my therapist was completely useless and how we were going to do things his way or we werent going to do them at all. I dont know if I would have reached the threshold for clinical depression since I never did the therapy thing, but my self care was pretty pathetic and I wasnt working or studying enough. A lot of the time, people feel like they need a Big Serious Reason (like I caught him bonking my sister or he burned my entire book collection then peed on the ashes) to dump someone. Cause this happens to me a lot, both with migraines and depression. If youre not into cooking, make a weekly date to try new restaurants in the neighborhood. My great-grandfather had families in the UK, Germany and Australia, none of whom were aware of each other until Facebook. If your life bores, frustrates, disappoints, or depresses you, then it's time for a change. If you cannot help someone, and being with that person is hurting you as well, putting some distance may be the healthiest choice. LW, Im sorry youre struggling with depression, and Id like to offer you a fist-bump of commiseration for the emotional work youre already doing, if youd like that. If I lean my head the other way, I can see a guy who is panicking about his partner being depressed and going about it all wrong. Don't ever try to stop them, you need for them to realise they need to stop or cut back. It may well be correct that he loves her, and it may well be correct that *part* of his motivation is to help her do what he knows she wants to do. Except theyre not actually asking YOU whats best for you. In leechspeak, logical and reasonable mean Whatever I want is logical and reasonable because I want it.. One way we help one another is literally asking How can I help support you on this? But my partner punishes me emotionally when I eat unhealthy food and dont exercise just sounds really bad out of context. Do you believe and trust that the struggling person is doing the best they can within their limitations, and treat them as the expert on their own life? Because that kind of encouragement would have felt patronizing to him, were he receiving it. I suspect that if she did all those things, his critiques would ramp up x1,000,000 because she is successful and he wants to cut her back down and put her back under his control. Dont sit around waiting for his call or text message because it could go on all day without either of you saying anything at all to each other just texts back and forth that dont really say much if hes not initiating the conversation himself. Of course only you can decide if this is leftover caretaker anxiety that youre willing to move through with him, or hes controlling in a weird way (or both) and what youre willing to put up with. Not because Ive been on the receiving endactually quite the opposite, as I was in a relationship with someone who was constantly miserable and did absolutely nothing to try and rectify it. Boyfriend stopped calling me cute pet names. Hooo yes. I've compiled a list of 7 signs you need to stop trying to save a failing relationship. Also *I* will be happy when youre skinny. Which . The thing here is that logic and reason are being juxtaposed against emotion as binary opposites. Yeah, the LWs boyfriends words sound like the very worst of my jerkbrains words. Im so disappointed in you. That means I dont want to run my food intake by you any more., To be absolutely clear, you should not have to justify any of this, and you are not the one making it weird by setting boundaries here. Period. A lot of men dont know what constitutes looking good, sure, but most at least know a clean shirt and something other than cotton or jersey material is the way to go. A lot of times he may have hinted you before that there was something that bothered him. I needed therapy, not just support, and his well-meaning attempts to get me active were grating and undermining to me. It sounds like BF is unhappy with the relationship, but feels like LW has it in her control to make the relationship better, so he is taking it out on her for not being the idealized version of herself. 5 Be Friendly Some exes are best handled by treating them in a friendly manner. Thank you for getting me out of the house!. And really, your joy is important. I hope that both you and the LW are able to get the unconditional love and actually helpful support you deserve, either in your current relationships or elsewhere. This is a good question for a conversation with your boyfriend if indeed thats what has been going on! LW, if you want the thoughts of a former terrible girlfriend, mine are: Your boyfriend isnt concerned about you. Theres nothing logical or reasonable about badgering your partner or dismissing their feelings. managed to pollute both the minds and the bodies of the American people, but he meant well. They threaten to break up with you all the time. Very well said. Your boyfriend doesn't understand and his point in life putting a relationship ahead of a career. And from the sound of you, you are taking care of you LIKE A BOSS. NOTHING YOU DO IS GOOD ENOUGH! What the fuck? If it was, hed be asking you how he can help you heal, not telling you how to heal for him. Listen to his response and try to . Guys, on the other hand, typically view themselves as weak and incapable if they voice their feelings or lean on other people for help or support. And when youve told him that hes being unhelpful, and hes told you its the stupidest thing Ive ever heard that you might have your own thoughts on your health and what you need That is him being a jerk to you. Logic and reason arent really qualities that describe people. also: breakfast for dinner is awesome and should be a part of every week Unless you dont want it to be, in which case it shouldnt! Maybe BF wants to push you because he thinks your mental health just requires external pushing. Stop the "blame game" and examine your part in disputes or conflict. Weve broken up now and I think its safe to say were both much, much happier. Bliss. Its more like, I am too physically exhausted to self-sabotage by not getting enough sleep. Keep my mouth shut about the chips? So boyfriend needs to read up on stuff about mental health issues PRONTO. By the time our relationship came to an end, we fought about the stupidest things, because we were both really fighting over who got to decide how I behaved. 3 Turn-Ons & Major Turn-Offs, 3 Reasons Why Men Pull Away (And 1 Way To Win Him Back). What steps can you take in order for him to feel less obliged and more willing again about making an effort with your relationship? I became severely physically disabled in my early twenties. Even if you end up staying, youll be on much better footing if you know youre not bound there by circumstance. What your boyfriend is doing is totally not how it has to be. Unfortunately, these storytellers dont get it. He was scared, I was exhausted and largely unresponsive, and neither of us knew what was going on or what to do. When i try to move the battery lock switch thing it doesn`t move and it`s like stuck. Then all of a sudden he stopped calling and you're not hearing from him at all. But that doesnt sound like whats happening here. 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